I love it when a mother takes the courage to ask for help and our lovely members support her. There have been two posts like this, this week. The first is bedwetting and our next post is about bedtime troubles.
It’s one of those taboo subjects, only when you openly discuss do you realise how many other people are going through the same thing!
“Can any mums give me some advice on how to stop my 5 year old boy (nearly 6) wetting his bed every night please? I have tried reducing his in take of liquid in the afternoon and also wake him up before we head to bed (which is around midnight). Is this the right thing to continue to do, or should I seek medical advice? Thank you”
Our lovely members offered lots of great advice:
It’s not classed as a problem until aged 7. One of my daughters was wet at night until 5 ( the others all dry at 2) I saved myself lots of grief and washing by putting her back in pull ups. One bit of advice I did get was to increase the amount she drank to stretch the bladder. She used to only go to the loo twice a day but soak through at night even if I lifted her 2 or 3 times.Suddenly one night she was dry and she never had an accident from then on. At 7 they might give them an alarm system that wakes the child when they wet, he will probably be dry at night well before then.
I honestly wouldn’t worry yet. My 6 year old still has about 1 accident a month as he just does not wake. I’m sure your son will be dry soon.
I am going through the same with an 8yr old. It’s more common than you would think. We are using an alarm & medication. We have also gone back to pull ups because he wets at least once a night and I couldn’t keep up with the washing. The advice about drinking more is also what we’ve been told. Good luck!
Not sure if this is applicable but removing blackcurrant juice for my sons diet worked wonders, also as bizarre as it sounds ensure she is drinking lots. It may be an irritated bladder.
Blackcurrant is a diuretic so stop that definitely!
Increase fluid intake in the day, at least 6 250ml glasses through out the day the stretch the bladder, then nothing (or sips if thirsty) an hour before bed time (the time they go to sleep, not get into bed). Make sure that when they go for their last wee that they sit and wait for 30 seconds and try again, just to make sure the bladder is fully empty. Don’t night wake, they need to wake themselves. If they wet, let them wake themselves up, help them change the sheets and get them back to bed. As exhausting as that is, it does help to programme the brain better. Until 7 the health professionals won’t be worried as its a hormonal response and can take longer with boys. It’s common to wet the before this age. Hope this helps.
I would see the GP, they may give you some more advice. It will also then be on your little ones notes about your concerns. It may also give you some reassurance.
When my 4 yr old little boy started in foundation we were asked if we would like advice on bed wetting. I got the information just recently. Increase fluids during the day to encourage more visits to the loo. This will also help to keep the bladder free from infection. And to help them recognise the feeling of a full bladder.
DON’T get cross with them, because it’s out of there control.
There is help for them as they get older.
My son prefers to wear pyjama pants (night time pull ups) but I need to find a way of lighting the hall way to the bathroom at night. Hoping this will encourage him to use the loo overnight.
Don’t stress. It’s far more common than you think. My eldest stopped wetting from his 7th birthday but I got him up nightly for a long time. My 5yr old is still in pull ups. Both mine are clever and potty trained early, it’s just one of those things.
My little brother had this problem and the doctor said he needed to drink more water as ot meant he would go to the toilet more in the morning and afternoon and not need to go at night, he had too dribk 1.5 litre of water atleast a day, it worked :o) Just an idea!
Thank you all, at least I know I am not alone. So is it normal that he does it every night? Is there waterproof mattress protector etc I should be getting. I use night time pull ups but sometimes it all soaks through and I cant keep up with the washing?
I use washable sheets called Brolly Sheets. They’re brilliant and wash well.
Night dryness is developmental rather than a learned behaviour. I don’t think lifting is recommended now either as it stops the bladder sending full signals. It might all of a sudden click but I would pop him into pj pants for the time being.
My almost 6 year old still does this. We actually had been referred to a consultant at the hospital and he advised it is best to lift them around 9pm which I had always thought was a big No No but he says on the contrary they now advise to do so in prolific bed wetters. They won’t prescribe medication or anything until after they’re 7 as its a hormonal change that needs to occur as opposed to a learned behaviour. We ban all drinks after 5pm and no blackcurrant.
“You’ve already had any advice I would offer. Absolutely agree with don’t worry or stress as I believe they pick up on that and it can make things worse. Funnily enough last night was my first experience of my son wetting the bed as he had been dry for ages before that. We had put on one of those bedmat things under the sheet which seemed to absorb most of it. It is very common tho, you are most def not alone”.
I’m glad I got so many advice from all of you lovely ladies, at least I shouldn’t worry too much. I was so stress about it, as his 3 year old nephews have already dry though out the night. And my little one was potty trained well before 18 months old. He doesn’t seem to know ‘the urge’ to get up during the night, he even wet himself and can still sleep though. I’ll try to increase his water intake during the date and make sure stop him drinking from 5 and see how it goes.
I have an 8 year old and no closer to getting dry. We now live in Spain and have tried everything. Will take him to the doctors here once we have tried all these tips again. H says he has bad dreams which make it happen :o( feel so sorry for him.
My 7 year old son was referred to the hospital and the advice they have us was as I said earlier no blackcurrant juice, not getting cross ( really not easy!) and they gave us this sheet (see below). He had to take it to school everyday and colour in the cup why he had drank it. 250ml or water or orange squash. It was an utter pain to begin with but after sticking with it he has been dry day and night since about August last year! Oh and also in the beginning we rewarded after 2 days/night dry, only a kinder egg or something small. He couldn’t manage a week at a time and was getting down hearten by failing every week so aim small to begin with.
I couldn’t cope with the wet covers so my eldest went back into pull ups until he was ready. He just never woke up and could sleep in a wet bed. They all get there, just some take longer than others. Seems to affect boys more than girls.
If it’s happening every night Katherine I would definitely use nappy/pull-up and just try to (not easy) relax about it (if they can hold it). Even if he has a dry few nights I wouldn’t make plans to get rid of nappy/pull-up until he’s been dry for a while (although even then it can still happen). Luckily I’ve been friends with Sam while she has gone through it with her son so I know what a long struggle it can be, which has helped me not to stress too much about when he will be dry. (Sorry bit garbled message as making lunch!). Brill idea about all info in one place Sam, some great advice here”.
First! I need to relax about this issue which is not going to be easy for me. It ‘s becuase my in-law keeps praising his two 3 years old nephews how brillant they’re getting dry at night, which make me feel so bad about all this situation”.
“You definitely need to try and ignore that, it’s absolutely nothing to feel bad about. Completely beyond your control”.
Thank you so much to everyone that offered support, it really does mean so much when something is getting you down.
Some other useful links I found: www.drynites.co.uk
Treating bedwetting: In most cases, the recommended plan is to first try a number of self-help techniques, such as limiting the amount of liquid your child drinks in the evening, making sure they go to the toilet before going to sleep.
Reassuring your child that everything is okay is also important, don’t tell them off or punish them for wetting the bed as this will not help and could make the problem worse. It’s important for them to know they’re not alone and it will get better.
If self-help techniques alone don’t help, a bedwetting alarm is often recommended. These are moisture-sensitive pads a child wears on their night clothes. An alarm sounds if the child begins to pee. Over time, the alarm should help train a child to wake once their bladder is full.
If an alarm doesn’t work or is unsuitable, medication called desmopressin or oxybutinin can be used.
Most children respond well to treatment, although bedwetting can sometimes return temporarily.
Read more at: www.nhs.uk
There are lots of children who wet the bed at night – even if you think you are the only one that does, we know that it is a common problem. For every class of 30 children aged 7 there will be two in that class who wet at night.
It’s not known why children wet at night but we do know that children can’t help it. Some children wet because they have inherited it from someone in the family, just like you can inherit the colour of your hair or the colour of your eyes.
See more at: www.eric.org.uk/Bedwetting
Good Luck everyone. I feel your pain and long for the disturbed nights to ease a little. With 2 boys it could be a little while yet…